The Gift of Compassion

A Guide to Helping Those Who Grieve

By Becca Stevens Published
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Offer what is most needed when words cannot be enough.Unfortunately, grief and loss are inevitable parts of living. No one escapes. Even so, it's difficult to know how to console those who have reached a broken place in their lives. What is the best way to show compassion when words cannot be enough?

In The Gift of Compassion, author Becca Stevens offers practical help for pastors, Stephen ministers, congregational caregivers, and other laity serving the broken-hearted. With a central message on the importance of simply being present for people who are grieving, Stevens combines practical how-to's with prayers, Scriptures, suggestions fro ways to serve the sacraments, and inspiration about the peace of God that passes all understanding.

This small book outlines meaningful ways to show compassion through planning visits, writing notes, finding appropriate Scriptures and prayer to read, avoiding cliches, and offering the presence of God to people suffering through the dark and searching experience of grief.


Stevens’s Gift places a compassionate arm around the shoulder of the weary caregiver as she speaks words of refreshment: God is the source of love, Jesus is the way of compassion, life-giving communities embody love, and in all ways, the goal of living is compassion.--Evon O. Flesberg, Vanderbilt Divinity School

From the the snowstorm that creates a shelter for her writing to the eucharist shared with her brother, Stevens writes evocatively and insightfully. Poetic and practical, Steven’s book is a rare find; the kind I buy for my bedside, the newly ordained, the freshly diagnosed, the giver of care.
-- Holly McKissick, pastor, Peace Christian Church, Kansas City, MO and Overland Park, KS

In this moving and practical discussion of compassionate care, Becca Stevens offers important insights and resources for all those engaged in the life-giving work of caring for the grieving. Through stories, prayers, and scriptures, she equips her readers to be authentically present to those who walk through the long valley of the shadow of grief and loss. Stevens demonstrates ways in which grace empowers caregivers to “simply show up and believe that in love we can find our way home.”
Lee Franklin, Chaplain Resident at Baylor University Medical Center in Dallas, Texas

About the Author

Becca Stevens

Becca Stevens books have grown out of her work as chaplain of St. Augustine's Chapel at Vanderbilt University, and as founder and director of Magdalene, a residential community for women with a criminal history of drug abuse and prostitution. Her work with Magdalene has earned national attention and spawned both a cottage industry, Thistle Farms, and related programs here and overseas.

To date, she has raised nearly $13 million and gained nationwide press coverage for the organizations she supports. She has won numerous awards from organizations including the Frist Foundation and the Academy of Women in Achievement. She has been named the "Alumnus of the Year" by the School of Theology at the University of the South, "Nashvillian of the Year" by the Nashville Scene and "Tennessean of the Year" by The Tennessean. In October 2011, she was recognized as a "Champion of Change" by the Obama White House. She has written a number of articles, is a widely traveled speaker, and has both a blog and podcasts available online at She lives in Nashville with her husband, Grammy-winning songwriter Marcus Hummon, and their three sons, Levi, Caney, and Moses.